While few people will readily admit that they own a sex doll, it doesn’t seem to stop it from being a booming industry. So who exactly buys a sex doll?

As with most fetishes, the sex doll craze offers up a wealth of questions. Who actually buys one of those? Do they seriously use them? Are they only used by creepers and sociopaths? While few of the questions that most commonly surfaced were anywhere near respectful, I took the time to investigate the ones that were, satisfying the curiosity of all. What did I find out? That all kinds of people purchase all kinds of sex dolls for all kinds of reasons. It should be noted early that sex dolls are not only purchased by men, but women, couples, and transgendered people as well. And the reasons that these sex dolls are being purchased are just as varied as the purchasers themselves. Sex dolls come in all shapes and sizes, from the inflatable to the uncannily lifelike silicone.


When polled, doll owners reported a plethora of reasons for purchasing their non-breathing counterparts, but the top three responses were improving a sex life, companionship or loneliness, and to satisfy specific fetishes that only a sex doll can satiate.


As far as sex lives go- dolls make it all quite a bit simpler. You can get “laid” anytime you want, there’s no emotional upkeep to worry about, and ultimately there’s a certain ease that’s involved when you’re involved with a sex doll.


“I originally bought [my doll] because I was lonely and hadn’t been able to find a woman that suited me. I felt like I had tried every angle in the dating game with little or no positive result. So I ended up buying a doll- I guess it’s similar in a way that a lonely woman might buy a dildo- it was easy. I got to have sex without having to suffer the consequences of dating gone wrong. It was all on my own terms and no one got hurt if I was feeling less than motivated to show real affection. I don’t believe that I have a relationship with [the sex doll] or anything, but it fills a void at the moment”


This doll owner reported feelings that can be familiar to just about anyone. While the doll fulfills a desire for uncomplicated, masturbatory satisfaction, the owner is left feeling less repressed and shut down. Nothing creepy about it, just another solo play toy that any one of us could have within our arsenals.


For companionship, sex dolls can take a slightly darker, and more heartbreaking turn.


“I lost my wife of 22 years in a car accident. Our children are grown and off living their own lives so I was left with a big house, all to myself. I tried to see other people and to date, but I just wasn’t ready to move on. I wasn’t ready to give up my wife. There were too many mental barriers to my emotional life for me to actually sustain a relationship and I’ve never been one for casual sex. I ended up commissioning very expensive [sex dolls] from several different companies, until I was able to create the perfect model. Many of the places refused to work off of a picture of my dead wife- which I can understand now, but at the time it was what I thought I needed. I ended up spending tens of thousands of dollars getting it right. I then ended up spending even more on necessary emotional counseling and therapy once I had discovered just how perverse my relationship with sex dolls had become.”


This owner reported that using sex dolls to quell the feelings of loss resulted in himself never being able to experience true closure that he needed. Using sex dolls as a bandage on an emotional wound isn’t necessarily a healthy option, and few of the owners of sex dolls that were polled reported positive interactions with their sex dolls when they were being used to combat feelings of loneliness or loss.


For me personally, the most fascinating and engaging of all of the polled owners of sex dolls were the doll fetishists. Caught somewhere between voyeurism and fantasy, these owners of impressively specific sex dolls have created such a niche market, that the sex dolls themselves are almost superhuman.


“I think I started having a “thing” with dolls early on in my youth. I’ve always been kind of a nerd that collects action figures and is into anime. This interest has grown with me and I now own a very large collection of both life size sex dolls, and sex doll action figures. The action figures allow me to perform uninhibited sexual role play that would be absolutely impossible with another person. My life size sex dolls range from the big eyed sailor moon-esque looking, with brightly colored hair and unnaturally large breasts, to very lifelike representations that have tattoos and piercings, or look uncannily like the girl next door. The thing that sex dolls offer is that they can be absolutely anything you want them to be at anytime. Instead of exposing myself to disease and heartbreak trying to find a human that matches my particular interests that day, I just have a doll for that. And if I don’t, then I’ll commission one.”


Sex doll enthusiasts are serious collectors with serious collections. One poller reports that he only ever uses the cheap, inflatable sex dolls because he has a latex fetish. A man who makes sex dolls in LA was interviewed by Independant, states that his professional sex dolls


“come with hefty price tags that start at a whopping $5,750 and can reach well in excess of $25,000. But with everything from tan lines and real hair, to tattoos, piercings and manicures (all customisable), the level of detail is so outstanding that it’s impossible not to admire them artistically.”


So much like the dolls themselves, the people that purchase them are all unique in their own ways. I don’t think that we were able to nail down the exact type of man that buys a sex doll, but boy did we have fun trying.

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